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Now that family is gone and I have to build a new support system from scratch. He also spends all is money on one of purchases like 600 pound shoes and then moans to borrow money while I foot the bill for car expenses etc.I feel like the only time he cuddles me is when he wants sex and if I have an excuse he immediately pulls away. Were in our late 20s. He confess to me that he started to love in our 1 month relationship. Ive told him why I need contact to stay connected to each other n to feel secure n have fun. Good luck! Ive put my career aside to help him build his business. I get 2-3 texts a day and I have to call him every few days just to hear his voice. it makes me feel like hes okay with giving me the minimum because he knows i will accept it. Its more about him being a hero. Me and him were in that I rlly like you stage lol. I am slowly trying to make new friendships and to enjoy myself with people who love me. But its weird because he texts me good morning every day, asks how my day is throughout the day, sends me updates on everything he is doing, etc. Should I just never expect to be treated the way he used to treat me? Since Christmas hes stopped seeing as much, no nice texts, less phone calls he says its not me & its because hes busy with work but even now on a Friday night hes at his place & im at mine. So accept that it will be hard, cry about it for a week or two and try to move on with your life and realize that you deserved so much better then that pos. Hes just happy having me in his life because Im supportive and loving but I dont see much effort on his side except when he really wants to do things he really likes. He has been going through a lot, with an unsupportive family, a broken ankle, financial troubles, depressionbut I have been steady and I have been supportiveI have loved him so well. The first few months of the relationship that was a constant and we were dying to see eachother every other weekend. with me very quickly after meeting me. he may also feel that you do not put enough energy into him. You wish your boyfriend was as attentive and loving as he was at the beginning of your relationship. Do I let this person disrespect my boundary? BUT both have to put in the work and if its not happening the work then its not happening and we are settling. Please advice me on this. I truly dont know what to do.. Ive been with my bf for 3 years now and were expecting. Sometimes when I try to kiss him he shoved me away. You may have to loosen your attachment and allow your boyfriend to withdraw or even leave. Dont turn a blind eye on things that are sign showing and you are not happy for them. I am depressed as well and yet my partner is on top of my prioroty list. Stop working for him. I dont expect a perfect relationship but I guess he does. He really hurt me in the past (when we werent together) regarding other girls but hes never actually done anything when weve been going out. He gets annoyed and sighs and does the What do you want from me now?? Always come lastAnd itsbreaking My heartthat I dont know what to do Financially Im not able to move And my son doesnt want to Any advice? He hasnt showed any affection towards me since that incident and makes me feel he doesnt care to make me feel like Im the only one. he said hell give me more time but nothing ever changes. I got up today and did mine in bed, he continued browsing the web on his phone which is all he does now when we are together. Yes leave him. Its okay to build from scratch instead of being in an emotionally abusive relationship and constantly being destroyed in to nothing. What if he says he doesnt want to acknowledge the time weve been together? The problem is, everyone around me has boyfriends that are going the extra mile to make sure their girlfriends feel loved at this time. In a year and a half weve gone on maybe 2 dates and I had to beg for them. it was only casual dinning places (only three times), other than that, we went out only for coffee. Maybe if you dont hear from him send him a positive text that you are thinking of him but let him come to you. The difference in mine is that he does apologies very often but never changesand I cant keep up anymore, I am simply not happy and not sure what do to do with that, I even doubting myself If I am not the one who is the wrong person. He was blowing me off each and every time. It is too immature an attitude for a 56 year old intelligent man. I understand law school is a rigorous program but for some reason he has been unhappy and stressed about everything that is going on in his life. Me and my boyfriend are reaching our 2 year anniversary and I dont know how I feel anymore, hes changed. Things had been going really well during the time we decided to get back together and I thought things were really different. It could be, very simply, that your S.O. Im going to be a junior in a few months and hell be a freshman in college. Also he always respond but hes texting less. He needs help but isnt able to take responsibility or accountability or doesnt care enough about maintaining the relationship I guess to do anything to make it work. My guy is the same way. I cannot communicate with him. time and time again i have told him why i was upset, what he could do to make the situation better and everything in between, yet he still does nothing. HE ACTED LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED. About 2 weeks or so after, I voiced my concerns again about his lack of effort in making quality time. i want to try to talk to him about it since we never argued or anything but ive been feeling this way for quite a while and i dont want to just break up with him like that. I asked him to spend Memorial Day with me shocker he forgot and made other plans. WIth or without them. He doesnt tell me he loves me very often, never compliments me, doesnt text or call on the days we are apart and due to his lifestyle and commitments we see each other the same 3 evenings every week, and it has been the same 3 evenings for 3 years with the exception of one or two evening. As stated above, knowing what your boyfriend is going through (ex trauma, personal grief, work load) is important and all, but also knowing how you would act if you were in a similar situation gives you answers and peace. Wow!Same here. kissing, hugging, sex, cuddling, EVERYTHING! He would go as far as always try and give me hugs and he would try for me all the time and text me non stop, he would put an effort into trying to get me and he would always call me pretty and beautiful. One thing I have learnt over the years is that we shouldnt let our kindness be a weakness in front of men. 58 here and it was us as the major priority for 3 solid yrs.. and now in our 4th yr. it has changed. He Is Nervous. Ill call him daily or send him texts but he only leaves me on seen and doesnt reply. He felt his place was his and he wanted to keep his place sacred and clean! Works always. I tried to explain this to him. He said hes tired or too busy. And even now he knows that there are small things he has done to make me feel loved and special (eg my name on his ig bio without me asking) and Ive made it so so clear that these small things make so so happy, but I just noticed that he removed my name from his bio yesterday and it breaks my heart because thats the one thing he has done that reminded me he loves me.. its so stupid because its such a small thing but at this point I have been so starved of love that I dont have anything else. I would wait it out just a bit, though, because hes probably dealing with a lot right now. Its been almost two years and weve been inseparable ever since but lately it seems like something has changed. Fear of commitment/fear of pain (especially if engaging with you triggers those emotions that remind him of a past failed relationship). You may find it helpful to write about your relationship. Then we signed our new real lease together and I dont know how we got where we got but he started getting lazy. Never happened. He reminds me often how he is in charge and makes me pay the price for his past decisions by living in a place he cannot afford alone, even though when he asked me to move here he never expected me to pay half because I dont make alot of money. Here we are stuck in the same pattern, he is hot and heavy in our relationship one month, then goes cold out of nowhere. You dont deserve to be treated like nothing. I have trust issues as well. Feel like I am too grown for him. We are the prize, we have to make them earn us. And i just wish the fighting would stop, i seriously cant take. Its so hard due to his work ,he still trying his best to see me at least thats what he told me. from there we started to be friend. You should never settle. But he say he is not in happy After this all, at some point he started to chnge himself. Hes now working at a new job since Jan and its great! He Is Bored. Just torn and dont know what to do. My boyfriend is Lebanese and given the situation there (economic crisis, unemployment rate and poverty rate are getting higher), he began manifesting symptoms of an overly stressed man. They never turned up. She saw me with his hat and questioned me and i told her i got it from my best friend and she knew i was lying but didnt care. LOVE IS AWESOME BUT GUESS WHAT HERE I AM 8 YEARS LATER AND HE STILL DOESNT CLEAN , STILL DRINKS. He has no end of time for himself. I say I never give advice, but this is one thing I want you to know: you have to build a life outside your relationship with your boyfriend. i refused saying that I am already busy, in which I am and I told him quit rankly i need you to plan before hand and so we can both be free. it is like his way of saying he just wants to do whatever he wants now and I if I dont like it, tough crap. He snaps at me more now that we live together and anytime I try to bring up my sensitive feelings they are dismissed as drama he cant handle. You have to be more understanding. I am struggling with my current relationship, I love him, but I have the thoughts of him being a narcissist, player or using meThanks. Do not sound attacking or desperate. I need suggestions on how to deal with this. I always yearn for good morning texts, prioritize seeing me during his off days and checking in during the day. He said he was planning on proposing that year. work game sleep. I just feel hurt and we just had a big fight yesterday and I feel kinda empty. He did have a hard time texting back or talking and thats what brought me to posting the initial question. I cant tell you what to do, I can tell you what it feels like to stay and feel the harshness of hurtful words for years at a time. Not fair and a relationship is 2 waysSince you have a Son and a new job would NOT recommend that you move to him. Life is to short to live on a roller coaster. No, I was this woman a few times in my life and it isnt seeing a place i sakd id never go to again. Also i didnt know if i could put this but yes I did give myself to him and it was my first time part of me regrets it and part of me doesnt but I promise it was legal but yeah. I realized he got into gaming with a girl for a long time. But if you have no idea why your boyfriend stopped making an effort in your relationship, talk to him. He pays alawys though i offer to pay but he refuses. if he told you he does not see a future with you, as hard as it is, you need to walk away now. I was still jus tholding it together because at least I have my boyfriend who will care for me for once instead of me constantly caring for others needs! His text messages have gotten shorter, he would rather hangout with his buddies instead and says if we hangout to much we will get bored of eachother. And silly me, I was waiting for his reply all night.I know hes got alot to deal with rn and all Im asking for is a time-to-time update so I can be at peace.Is that too much to ask for? I want to stress that YOU DID NOTHING WRONG by vocalizing your needs and something you crave in a relationship. I decided to swipe right to see who he was. You cant let him be the center of your life! He had a past and opened up to me about it and we were just a rlly good couple. I feel like my heart is breaking already, just waiting for the dreaded phone call to say he cant give me what I want when Ive said all I want is some time together an hour here or there, some texts to show he cares I dont feel its much but if its too much for him then I guess I need to accept things. A healthy relationship should brighten your day, not wondering where you stand. What started as my dream sex life is now I am lucky if we do it once a month and it is usually on his terms, NOT when *I* am in the mood, planned and boring and routine. Later on our conversation is dead Im always the one who make efforts. I had the same thing. Not just his X But his friends to and the kids. He tries to make me think Im crazy when I talk him about it. I feel lonely and he NEVER wants to go out or do anything. That will drive you crazy too. He also said that I know how he is and that he is tired from work. Whenever I go anywhere its just me and the kids! I know he loves me but weve talked multiple times about how I dont feel loved, wanted, or appreciated, and he just sits there and doesnt change. Now we seem so disconnected. Ive been with my bf for a year & half but we have past history. I said it would really mean the world to me if he would send me a good morning text like he used to. Let him come to you. He bought her a Mothers Day card. You are strong. We have had problems in the past about him flirting with girls on social media but never that Ive known for him to actually meet someone and get their number and asking her out. So any advice would be helpful. Things started getting better and then crashed on the rocks. Don't be antagonistic towards him, but make him realize how much you He comes to stay here but thats it really. My boyfriend and I been together for a few months ,we dated not really long time ago and now we are in long distance. I got upset and she said she was done being friends with me so yeah that happened. Any advice please? My boyfriend got busy with his work, which is busier due to quarantine, and stopped putting in his usual thoughtful effort, so I stopped putting out, and now Im about to break up with him. It wasnt any thing bad. He loves Instagram and has a fitness page, and is constantly posting pics on it and putting up stories of his everyday life. Even though he always said he would try. I was in an abusive relationship before so its scary having to trust someone and their intentions. I know love makes me blind, could anyone tell me what I have been missing in this relationship please? Thank You for sharing your story. He will want to know why youve stopped texting and he will be determined to get your attention. You have the power to change someone very important in your life. Your Aries guy might not be texting you back because he doesnt enjoy small talk or having long conversations over text. Try to be better. Hes now begging for me back , saying hes going to change. I dont quite think he is a narcissist, because he does have a heart and I have seen him show compassion; however he is very proud and self-absorbed. I want to be with him but Im also scared that Im wasting my young years and wake up one day regretting not leaving bc he isnt going to change how he is for me or at least try for me. This quarantine also suddenly ruined my relationship. And what does he say when I say that, he says what plan? It isnt fair. I guess in the end we need to decide if hes worth all this heartache. Keep in mind, he does suffer from depression here and there where he has no energy at times and finds no pleasure in anything. How much time should I spent apart from him and not talking to him? Its just so sad because we have already talked about these no showing of efforts issue and up until this day it is still the same. Im so sorry this happened to you. Its about dealing with regret, coping with guilt, and healing shame. And i couldnt forget it. He expressed his anger in silence. Recently,he told me hell be busy with work and i tried to understand our situation right now..But he i feel like he doesnt seems to give much effort for this relationship to get closer. Ive held up my end and have been a loving girlfriend but Im not getting much back, but am also afraid of being alone. I dont know if you have or not, but try just letting him spill his heart out to you about his feelings. Rather than jumping to conclusions, have a conversation with your partner and ask them what's been on their mind and the reasons for their apparent loss of interest. Maybe hes coping with financial problems in his professional or personal life, or grieving the los of someone he loves. I may be overreacting sometimes, but I believe my feelings are valid. I love my boyfriend, but just cant get the feeling that he feels the same. Something went down and he doesnt want to confess. For a while there I was wondering if he was a narcissist, player or just using me. I feel that I am confused and disappointed. he is the most amazing boyfriend i have ever had or so it was a little while ago. and he would say yeah we should, and then nothing. Either way I have decided to just sit back and live my life. Then, all of the sudden the bottom drops out and he is unresponsive. Now, I dont know all the details of this, but I would say that hes pushing you away unintentionally while trying to cope with the loss of his father. Am so confused I dont rilly know what to do . What happened now Millie? What did you end up doing ? Hes sees things in one paranoid way only, that Im selfish and dont really love him and just like the things he can give me. But he tells me that he wants to get married even im being a total b*tch. If you almost never see each other, then sitting down to talk about your relationship or his lack of effort would look much different than if you live together. I have been dealing with a lot lately. All relationships are unique. Stop yourself from bombarding him with messages. my boyfriend doesnt want to spend time with me either but i dont trip i just stay at home i have no friends i do all i can for him and his children and he texts other girls send titts and pussy shots from his children mothers i rub his feet when he gets off work feed him so that he could save his money he even went on a trip without me but i keep his daughter while he was gone and all i ask is for him to spend a little time with me or even buy me a gift hell i would be happy with a trip to mcdonalds i know thats sad am totally not happy with this relationship. But no. But I cant help but fear the same thing would happen again anytime soon.Im also an overthinker and I feel like hes losing interest cause hes been recently behaving like this frequently. Again Im the only one putting in effort. Ive even used different approaches, including positive reinforcement. 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